As I struggle to be a better person, there are values and principles I practice and try to abide with. some times the values are hard to be practiced cause we now leave in a generation that misinterprets talking the loudest, being the centre of attention, self praise, self love and self centeredness as a sign of confidence and self esteem. But as the saying goes "if you wanna make the world a better place then take a look at yourself and make a change" so my life hack one is!
1. Thou shalt not be self centred: Self value and self confidence are essentials for everyone who wants to fully function, but there Is a line between having these characteristics and just being self centred. Its hard to determine whether a person is self absorbed cause the characteristic hide behind good qualities such as high levels of confidence and
self esteem. Like any other human being most times I find myself struggling to tame my self centred alter ego then later on find out that Its more energy consuming to be self absorbed and also exhausting to be around someone who Is self centred. In order to tame the self centred ego I try to practices these guidelines.
A. Listen more than I speak in conversations ( listen to understand)
B. decrease drama in my life ("You get what you put out. If you act in a way that is positive and minimal drama, you attract the same kind of positive situations and people.
Drama usually comes from my reaction to other people’s actions. I stop to think: Does this really matter in the long run, or am I just trying to be right?
C. question my motive for speech or actions when am with others
D. practice empathy with othersC. question my motive for speech or actions when am with others
E. try to blend in a group if necessary than trying to stand out all the time
F. allow other people to do things there way If necessary by not forcing your ideas or the way you do things on them.
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“When we fear what other people think about us, we are frequently more focused on 'being interesting' and less focused on 'taking an interest.' That's why many people talk a great deal when they are anxious and why many people never feel heard. If both people and conversation are trying to be interesting, there is no one left to genuinely listen.”
― John Yokoyama,
xoxo fran
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